Small T Trauma & What You Can Do About It
Trauma occurs in two types, Large T and Small T. Understanding the difference can help you recognize the potential effects of Small T traumas that often go overlooked or disregarded.
A Counselor’s Guide to COVID-19
Welp, here we are, three months into the roaring twenties facing a global pandemic. Just as we all might have expected. Schools are shutting down, businesses scrambling, hands cleaner than ever, and I’ve suddenly discovered an impeccable ability to imagine germs everywhere. Literally everywhere. Our world as we have known …
Communicate Better Quickly
I work with a lot of couples in conflict. I’ve been a third party to conflict about parenting, money, sex, affairs, hopes, goals, and even sweet potatoes. Being a part of these discussions, I have learned that the facts of the conflict matter very little. From my stance as an …
Helping Your Child with School Anxiety
It’s back to school time for students in the area. While students mourn their final days of break, anxiety is awaking from its summer slumber with a fresh set of “what ifs”. Soon, they’ll begin creeping into the minds of students and creating new worries or resuscitating old ones. What …
Is Your Focus Working?
Modern cameras are pretty amazing. In an instant they allow us to capture and freeze memories. It takes only seconds to transform an image existing in the scope of our vision into a timeless digital recreation. Part of this magic lies in the camera’s almost instantaneous auto-focus feature. From the …
Is the Grass Really Greener?
6:45am I tiptoe past their doors and hope they’ll sleep for at least 30 more minutes. Just one cup of coffee on the porch please??? But that creaky floorboard betrays me. Cue crying, dirty diaper squirming, multiple breakfast demands,sticky peanut butter messes, incessant singing, table climbing, and Momma clinging. I …
How Do You Measure Your Worth?
How do you measure your worth? In compliments, inches, pounds, dollar signs, degrees, productivity…? It’s human nature to seek concrete ways to feel secure, but if we invest too heavily in them, we set ourselves up for anxiety and miss the opportunity to experience the empowering freedom of standing grounded …
How to Let Anxiety Go
I don’t like rainy days and that’s how I teach people to think differently about anxiety. Therapists are guilty in speaking in vague, fluffy language which can be inspiring but might late leave you thinking, “wait, what does that actually mean?”. Rainy days are perfect for practicing the mysterious concepts …
It’s Good to Not Know
Post by Emily Key, LPC-MHSP Being on the brink of something new has always scared me. Excited me too, but mostly scared me. My tendency is to focus on all the negative “what ifs” so much that I lose sight of how delightful the unknown can be. “What if I …
Harry Potter and the Counselor’s Couch
We’re taught to not self-disclose as therapists, but I’ve got to make a confession. I was thirty years old before I ever cracked a page of the Harry Potter books. I knew there were a few sort-of-popular movies from the series, but I hadn’t bothered to watch them either. Flash …